What A Woman Wants

firepitWay back when the house was just a shell, I used to dream of a weekend like this last one. I’d fill it with amazing women, fabulous food and we’d talk and read and hang out, helping each other with the cooking and the washing up. We’d walk through the woods and sit around a fire-pit at sunset, teasing each other about the Bridget Jones moments of our lives and reminding each other of the times when we won  – against all the odds. It would be the ultimate in a girls’ weekend away.

So when my pal, Tanja Gangar sent me a Facebook message from her Indian ashram where she was studying to be a yoga teacher to ask if we could have a women-only yoga retreat when she got back, I grabbed the diary. ‘Let’s do Hallowe’en’, I said, imagining a covern of witchy magic where she could show us what she’d learned on her mid life gap year.

And so we did.

But what happened was much more than my original dream. Tan had gathered a group of women  of ‘a certain age’ who shared that thing that belongs to women who have lived a while. A certain age; it’s an odd phrase. We’re certain about so much at 40 plus, but the phrase suggests that we’re hesitant about the time it took to get here. We love those Bridget Jones stories, but worry about the lines that were carved when they weren’t quite so funny. We define ourselves by other people – kids, partners, friends, parents – whether we have them or not, and, faced with a world without them, we freeze in fear of the long road ahead. How to love again when your heart is broken, how to live again when your home is empty, how to let go of illnesses you’ve conquered but hover like the shadow they once were.

I don’t know how Tan’s own brand of GangaMa yoga managed to tease all that out of our group – and more. As we stretched and found ourselves in positions we didn’t think were possible, maybe we opened up those magic chakras where all the juicy stuff lives. Maybe the auming and humming and twisting and folding made us feel all the bits of us that we’d forgotten to feel, and the Universe approved. As Tan stood in tree pose on Sunday afternoon, she remembered that it was Divali, and with that thought, the light poured into A Sussex House, bathing us in sunshine. We threw open the doors, letting the outside in, and breathed in the first day of the rest of our lives.

GangaMa yoga is a yoga practice for women of a certain age. We’re certain about some things and we know nothing about the rest. And that’s ok. And you read it here first – GangaMa with Tanja Gangar will grow. It will find women who want to retreat to the middle of nowhere and stretch and fold and twist until they cry or laugh or simply sigh. They’ll cook together and share their Bridget Jones stories as they wash up afterwards. They’ll forgive their kids, partners, friends, parents and throw their affirmations into a fire under a sunset sky. They’ll walk through the woods and see the magic of a herd of deer cross their path. It’ll be the ultimate girls’ weekend away.

Next GangaMaYoga  Winter Weekend Yoga Retreats with Tan Gangar

Cleanse and Renew: Friday Jan 6th- Sun 8th 2017

Love and Acceptance: February 10th – 12th 2017

For beginners to intermediate levels  For more info, click here 

img_6445

 

 

Yogahhh

Tan monkey
Photo of Tan and her friend by Laurie Bryan Larson

 

Ah for an Indian summer. Just when you thought it was all over (the rain, the damp expectation blues of a British summer), Tan – by name and nature – one of my most inspiring chums emails from India with news of her yoga retreat on the last weekend in Oct.  Tan took a year out of life in the fast lane living in Brighton and working at The National Portrait Gallery and went to see what she could find of her self in ashram life in India. Here she tells something of the life changing experience that India and yoga has given her this last year.  For more info on how to sign up, pop over to the Retreats tab and scroll down for details of her amazing retreat at A Sussex House.

Having completed nine months of my Mid-Life Gap Year, I’m currently teaching yoga classes at the famous Parmarth Nikiten Ashram, one of the largest yoga centers in India. The Ashram offers a wide variety of yoga courses for thousands of international visitors a year and two regular sessions daily for the many native and International yoga enthusiasts that visit the Campus all year round; so my classes are always filled with an eclectic mix of students from every continent, who seem to like my unique mixed-up style, a collection influences gathered on this crazy journey I’ve been on…I’ve  even built up a bit of a fan-base too. 
With only a few weeks left, I’ve been trying to gather as much learning as I can and  just finished one of the traditional Hatha Yoga courses here with the incomparable Hatha Guru Induji, who teaches yoga in the strict, classical style, through asana and pranayama practice, chanting and meditation. The course promotes the acknowledgement of  yoga  as the union of body mind and spirit and the expectation that  students attending respect this by agreeing to wear only white, eat only Sattvic (calm) foods and do their share of Karma Yoga (cleaning duties). 

Also my amazing yoga master, Parveen Nair whom I did my teacher training with in Goa, has been offering extra intensive classes between his recent teacher training courses here in Rishikesh, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed learning from him again; a yoga master and former disciple of BK Iyengar himself; He’s a very tough instructor who pushes you to your limits and really knows how to take you out of your comfort zone.  

So, returning home in month I’ll be ready to impart almost a year’s worth of collective knowledge and wisdom to my fellow UK yogis and hope to raise some of the amazing inspiration and enlightenment that I’ve gathered on my huge yoga adventure here.

 

A guest blog from Rattle Tales’ Erinna Mettler

SONY DSC
Erinna Mettler

Rattle Tales (Brighton’s premier spoken word group) recently rolled up at A Sussex House for a weekend writing retreat. We’d done day workshops before but this was our first overnighter. Six writers joined tutors (and Rattle Tales Directors) Alice Cuninghame and Erinna Mettler for a weekend of writing times, creative exercises and the chance to practice their read aloud skills.

Rattle Tales was established five years ago by graduates from The University of Sussex MA in Creative Writing, who wanted to bring their writing to a wider audience. Since that first show Rattle Tales has grown and grown, staging sell-out events regularly at The Brunswick Pub in Hove and at Brighton Fringe, The Green Man Festival and even a show in Le Crotoy, France. Three years ago they established the (now international) Brighton Prize, the city’s only short story competition which was judged last year by Peter James.

Retreaters arrived at the house, deep in the Sussex countryside, early on Friday evening. The house is a beautiful modern eco design surrounded by bluebell woods and overlooks a duck pond and a field inhabited by rabbits and hares. A herd of deer lives nearby and wanders through the wood in the early morning mists. Everyone settled into their spacious bedrooms and then we had dinner cooked by our host Gilly Smith and sat around the enormous table to talk about our writing and get to know each other a bit better.

The next morning, after breakfast, our day retreaters arrived and Alice and Erinna gave a talk on writing short stories and performing to an audience. The retreat was designed to prepare writers for writing for one of our shows and for entering short story competitions. After this there was plenty of time to write and each client had a mentoring session with one or both of our tutors to discuss a previously read piece.  It was cold but sunny and the birds sang in the trees. Our retreaters were free to walk around the grounds but most knuckled down and spent the time writing for the evening’s planned performance. Gilly provided delicious meals, poached salmon and salads, heavenly brownies and a baked chicken with rice. At the end of the day there was Prosecco and everyone read some of their writing around the wood burner. If it had been warmer we would have surely relocated to the bluebell wood for a campfire!

We were struck by how accomplished the stories were and how diverse, we had poetry and memoir and nature writing and fully formed short stories. Each was a delight and it really felt like a performance.

The next day brought creative writing exercises, further mentoring and more free writing time.  Everything stopped for a long Sunday dinner. Unfortunately it was then time to say our goodbyes. The weekend had passed in a flash but we are looking forward to the next one.

One of our retreaters, Elizabeth Hughes, submitted a story to Rattle Tales for our Brighton Fringe Show. We are delighted to say it got through the selection panel and she will be reading it at the show on May 26th. Tickets are available from Brighton Fringe box office. For further information on our shows, workshops and retreats please sign up to our mailing list. www.rattletales.org

Feedback

Time, space, support & inspiration to get creative.

The house has the Wow factor! Warm & comfortable.

The house was absolutely lovely. The food was amazing.

The mentoring sessions were brilliant! It’s great to have such detailed feedback.

The accommodation was equal to any of the posh hotels I’ve stayed in. I would describe it as first class.

I liked the free-flowing exchange of ideas and writing that was made possible by the quickly established feeling of trust between diverse people.

The whole experience exceeded my expectations. Rest assured I will extol Rattle Tales’ virtues to as many people as possible.

Rattle Tales: The Retreat April 22-24

rattle-photo-31

Friday April 22nd – Sunday April 24th 

Rattle Tales takes up residence in A Sussex House for a short fiction retreat. Tutors Erinna Mettler and Alice Cuninghame, will introduce you to Brighton spoken word group Rattle Tales, the dos and don’ts of writing for an audience and how to survive reading your work in public. Both directors of the newly expanded Brighton Prize for short fiction they will also look at how to make your story stand out from the crowd in competitions. There will be writing exercises, one to ones, the opportunity to share your work and plenty of time to write.

Your Hosts

SONY DSC
Erinna Mettler

Erinna Mettler‘s first novel, the Brighton-set Starlings, was published in 2011 by Revenge Ink and was described by one reviewer thus:

‘We read this and feel as though we know Brighton intimately, just as we get to know Baltimore inside and out in The Wire.’

Erinna is a founder and co-director of the spoken word collective Rattle Tales and the newly established Brighton Prize, the city’s only short story competition. She is also an experienced tutor and mentor with an MA in Creative Writing (dist) from The University of Sussex.

Erinna’s short stories have been shortlisted for The Bristol Prize and The Writers & Artists Yearbook Arvon Award. Her stories and poems have been published internationally in journals such as Riptide, Swamp and The Manchester Review. She has a special interest in writing for performance and her career highlight so far was having a story read by a Game of Thrones actor at Latitude Festival.

‘Mettler has an astonishing ability to connect reader with character, using her mastery of language and storytelling to compel the reader to keep turning the page.’ The Brighton Argus

‘Epic, unchanging, the human condition is laid bare throughout these stories. Artfully, Mettler picks it apart, examines it, and then builds it back together again from a ruin, into something stronger, more coherent.’ The Short Review

Twitter @ErinnaMettler   www.erinnamettler.com

alice cuninghame
Alice Cuninghame

Alice Cuninghame is a writing coach, copywriter and fiction writer. She is a graduate of the MA in Creative Writing and Authorship at Sussex University.

Alice is a co-founder and director of Rattle Tales, an interactive storytelling event, and is a regular performer at it. As part of Rattle Tales, she co-founded the Brighton Prize, the city’s only major literary prize.

Her short stories have been published in a number of places, including Aesthetica and the Stories for Homes anthology.

As a coach, Alice works with fiction and non-fiction writers from all over the world, helping them break through creative blocks, hone their skills and gain lasting satisfaction from their writing. She also runs writing and yoga retreats in Brighton.

@alicecuninghame      www.alicecuninghame.co.uk.

 

Schedule

Friday

Arrival from 5pm

7pm welcome

8pm dinner

Saturday

8am breakfast

10am talk on writing for performance and questions

11am-1pm: writing time/ 121s

1pm lunch

1803pm – 6pm: writing time/121s

6.30-8pm: performance

rattle anth1

8pm dinner

Sunday

8am breakfast

10-am-1pm writing time/121s

1pm lunch

3pm close

2014-02-13 19.26.29

Accommodation and Prices

185

Prices include the workshop, mentoring, food and accommodation for Friday and Saturday night. Please bring your own wine!

Double with ensuite bathroom: £295 pp

Single with ensuite: £275 pp

Single with a shared bathroom: £255 pp

A limited number of day retreaters are invited at £150 for Saturday and Sunday including lunch on both days and dinner on Saturday.

To book or for more information, please email erinnamettler@gmail.com or alice@alicecuninghame.co.uk or book through Eventbrite

 

Finally…

316It’s taken almost ten years to get here, but this weekend, we did it. I’ve dreamed of hosting writing retreats since our pilot weekend back in 2007. Back then in another house made of glass, writers and would-be writers left their worlds behind for a weekend to start a novel or kick start the one they’d left in the drawer. They walked in our woods and, over dinner and a log burning stove, they realised that writing makes them happy. They came from Brighton, London, Southampton, Devon, and they loved what we offered them – a bit of peace, great company and a cracking feast.

But the house wasn’t right; with shared land in a co-housing association, it couldn’t ever offer the exclusivity to really leave the world behind. So we moved, bought a new house and watched as it subsided into the clay of the Weald. Six years later, it’s been replaced by a brand new eco house set now in nine acres of land, including our  own magical woodland. The powder-white balconies look out over meadows of peppermint cream, and this weekend, of frosted icing. And in those magical woods, you can almost hear the bluebells stretching and yawning under the mulch of midwinter before they eventually poke their heads out in Spring.

But this house is not a home without writers, and on Friday night, it began to breathe as the cars rolled into the drive. Laptops were plugged into pristine white walls and beds, plumped and preened, became strewn with chapters looking for order, sentences looking for life. Corks popped and the coffee pot blew as a gaggle of strangers settled in for the weekend.

295Tom Connolly, author of the beautiful ‘Spider Truces’ was our first tutor, arriving on Saturday morning to share his practice, his tips and to remind the writers that it’s just about doing it. As he prodded the writers to get under the skin of their characters (‘What was the last thing she read? When was the last time he cried?’), Vicky Blunden, his editor at Myriad Editions joined him to talk about the mechanics of publishing. And as they peeled off to give one-on-one tutorials, the smells of a Middle Eastern feast, inspired by my current RadioReverb series about Brighton’ Syrian migrant community, filled the kitchen.

Walking, sleeping, writing, singing… the afternoon melted into evening and a dreamwriting session before an Ottolenghi-style banquet (I wish).

Sunday morning, and our midwinter retreat had been transformed into a winter wonderland. It didn’t last, but for the writers waking up and looking out over the meadow, it was a magical start to the final day.

322Crime-writer, William Shaw was our tutor for the morning, with lessons bursting from his pile of papers,  a Latin teacher compared to Tom’s looser, more Mediterranean style, perhaps. Both brilliant, both bang on, the writers were scooping up their offerings like hens at feeding time. ‘Crime fiction is the basic story. Classic myths are no more than crime fiction – someone dies and you have to find out why’, he told us.

By midday, it was time to pop a few more corks, and settle down for a moment of reflection while the chicken, boiled first in cardamon and cinnamon, Syrian style, was roasting. The writers shared their stories of writing, of character and of inspiration, while singer/songwriter Katie Whitehouse sang us the love letter to her father she’d always meant to sing to him. And I cried.katie sings

As the writers packed up and drove off, quite literally into the sunset, it seemed churlish for Katie to set off for Devon and so she and writer, Jenny Quick whose book ‘Beethoven by Bike’ will be written, settled in for another night around the log burner. And as they left before dawn this morning, I know they’ll be back. A community of writers, dreamwriters, songwriters, crimewriters and poets is building here in this house that I dreamed up all those years ago. Just a  little more manifesting to do to make it the retreat of my dreams, but I’ve got a feeling that there’s enough magic around these woods to make it happen.

Midwinter Writers’ Retreat

3Acres4 back whiteJan 15-17 2016

Join authors, William Shaw and Tom Connolly for a cosy writing  dreamwriting retreat in the middle of the Sussex countryside.

You’ll have plenty of time to write alongside the morning workshops and one on one feedback with William and Tom, dreamwriting with your host, Gilly Smith, and the fireside chats with your fellow writers. With gorgeous homemade food and country walks, this is a new year’s resolution to restore your spirit and get you writing.

The house is a stunning eco-house, freshly finished by the time you arrive; as I write, the carpets and decking are about to go down. Set in nine acres of meadow and private woodland, there’s plenty of space for muddy walks and meditative wanderings.

And if the weather’s rubbish, bring it on; the triple glazed glass windows, ground sourced under-floor heating, log burner and bonhomie will warm your cockles, and send you home with a book in your pocket and love in your soul.

About the Authors

Crimewriter, William Shaw is the author of a trilogy of detective books set in late sixties London and what The New York Times has called  “an elegy for an entire alienated generation.”He is also an award-winning music journalist.  Click here for more info

Tom Connolly  is the author of The Spider Truces (a Financial Times Book of the Year), which was shortlisted for the Waverton Good Read Award and the Writers’ Guild of Great Britain Award, and longlisted for the Desmond Elliott Prize 2011. His second novel, Men Like Air, will be published in 2016. He is an acclaimed filmmaker and has directed award-winning short films for the cinema and for Channel 4 and the BBC. His short stories and radio plays have been broadcast on Radio 4. His story ‘The Man in the Lift’ was shortlisted for the Imison Award. Click here for more.

About Dreamwriting

Dreamwriting is your chance to stop the thinking and let the writing flow. Based on the idea that your subconscious has far more ideas than your head, this is where you get in touch with the creativity itching to find its way onto the page. Dreamwriting is yours and yours alone; share it if you want or hold it close and take it home as your secret treat. In the group, we’ll discuss what happened during the writing and thrill at the magic of the moment.  Click here for more info.

Schedule

Friday evening: arrivals and dinner

Do bring your own alcohol as we’re not licensed.

Saturday 

8.30: Breakfast

10.00:  Workshop  with Tom Connolly and one on one tutorials

1pm: Lunch with Tom Connolly and his editor at Myriad Editions, Vicky Blunden

2-4.30pm: Writing time

Afternoon walk (optional)

www.sarahlondonphotography.co.uk
Photograph by Sarah London. Styling by Jasmine Orchard.

4.30: Tea

008

5pm: Dreamwriting

7pm: Dinner

Sunday

8.30 Breakfast

019

10.00 Workshop with William Shaw and one on one tutorials

1pm Lunch

Feedback with group

3pm Departures

Accommodation

We have six bedrooms in the main house, 4 with ensuite bathrooms and double beds at £295 pp, and two downstairs with a shared bathroom at £275 pp.

Extra accommodation is available at our gorgeous friends at Starnash, a five minute drive up the road at £265 pp

To book, email gilly@gillysmith.com or call 07930 400805

 

The Magic of the Woods; a film shoot for Hexology

049
Making the magic; set designer, Elly Novick teaches sister, Loulou how it’s done. Nova State strum gently as they wait for the shoot to begin.
065
By the power of Hex. Artwork by Elly and Loulou Novick.
095
Rosy Carrick is a poet and Mayakovsky scholar. Her translations of his poetry will be published in December 2015. She plays narrator, poet and digital nymph in this Kickstarter for Hexology’s new app. Make up by Uckfield’s Centre Stage students, Beth Martin, Lydia Visick and Millie Carlile. http://www.mediamakeupandhair.co.uk/
110
Students Simon King (DoP) and Elly Novick (set design, 1st AD and PA), Hexology’s Darrel J Butlin and poet Rosy Carrick set up the shot.
123
Sound man, Josh Armstrong brought his band, Nova State to play the audience rather than to a crowd. Entrepreneur, Jenny Barrett of Supernatural organic children’s clothing, Nessa Newman aka The Cycling Seamstress, artist and photographer, Sooxanne Rolfe and poet Chay Graham aka Shakes join the make-up artists in a magical woodland scene.